Sunday, October 21, 2007

Seriously...

I never thought I would say this, but I can't wait until Monday. I just want to put this horrible, yucky, no-good weekend behind me. My hair (that for the first time in my life, I LOVED) was effectively destroyed in just under 2.5 hours by some hairstylist that was either too ignorant, or too greedy to just say, "I can't do what you want." Seriously. That's all she had to say. I would have happily walked out the door, picked up my kid, gone home, and begun a search for another hairstylist. To add insult to injury...she charged me $225 for this nastiness. I have NEVER...I repeat NEVER...paid that much for anything to be done to my hair.

My hair was this nice, dark, dark brown with BRIGHT red chunks in it. LOVED it. And, although, I have never "loved" my hair until this point, I have never walked out of a salon in tears. Never. When I told the stylist what I wanted, she said, "Well, we don't have that exact color, but I can get it REALLY close." Yeah, not so much honey. Orangish-burgundyish, so-dark-you can't-tell-the-difference-from-the-rest-of-my-hair-unless-in-bright-sunlight = NOT THE SAME THING. Not even close. Ugh. Not to mention that my hair is so damn short that I can't get it in a ponytail...also NOT WHAT I ASKED FOR. And, my bangs are so short, it's ridiculous looking. I can deal with the length; it will grow back. Color...not so easily fixed. Especially when you're hair is as fine as mine. If I had the money (which I totally don't), I would have gone immediately to another salon to have it put back the way it was. But, not only do I not thave the money, my hair is too fine to take all of that processing. I'm counting the days until Dec 1st, when I can go somewhere that can actually DO WHAT I ASKED. So, that's 6 weeks of hair hell. I'm seeing lots of hats in my future.

So, I'm welcoming tips from anyone that accidentally used a shampoo that faded their color really fast. While, for most that isn't desirable, I NEED it. Anyone, anyone??? If I can get this gross red to fade out, I can pump it back up to semi-what-I-want with my trusty Manic Panic.

And, let's not forget the fact that my mother had to watch Hazel while I was at the salon, and it seemed to have put a MAJOR cramp in her style. And, I won't be allowed to forget that. That "alone" time...SO NOT WORTH IT. I would give it all back, and spend every waking minute alone with both of my kids until Bryan comes home, if I could just have my hair back, and side-step the guilt-trip train. I would even give it all back, and take to dealing with my son who has taken to screaming NON-STOP for no apparent reason for the last 3 days. At this rate, I won't have any hair left to worry about...I'm gonna' pull it all out! I need a good, strong margarita, and a toast to the rest of this deployment going by in the blink of an eye. I had reached a calm within myself, lately, about Bryan being gone. "Just deal with it. It will all be over soon." But, I just broke down yesterday. It's days like that that I miss him the most. Days when I feel like I'm being ridiculous, and don't have anyone to talk to. And, I know I'm being ridiculous because anyone I TRIED to talk to, made it BLATANTLY clear. Bryan will always listen, and always make me feel better. I miss him.

Well, if you've made it this far, sorry for the long rambling. Hopefully blogging this off my chest will make me feel a little bit better. Sometimes, a little bit of that left-over PPD just kicks in. I'm off to dig through my hat collection, and take Hazel to a play date. Bring it on, Monday. I am so ready. Happy Sunday all!

16 comments:

Anonymous said...

I am soo sorry hun. I think I will go hat hunting in your honor right now...and have a margarita =(

~k

Michelle said...

aww...hugs to you!! I've so been there...bad haircuts are the worst!! Same thing happened once to me: wanted blond streaks and ended up ALL blonde...resulting panic made me dye it twice that night, and my (also fine) hair was so fried that I couldn't do anything to it for a year!! Eeek! So hang in there!! It'll get better! Wishing you a happy Monday!

Zoe said...

oh i have been there. after the birth of my 2nd son i had this "i have to get my hair cut right now" attack. my hairdresser was in ireland...god damn him. so i went to someone a "friend" recommended. lets just say i bawled like a bay in the chair and it took me a year to grow it out. luckily reds tend to fade fairly quickly. i would use any shampoo that you can see through. hopefully that will help...then stock up on headbands...really funky cute ones. long ass comment huh...i'm so sorry that you are missing your hubby that must be so hard...hey do you want mine? no really... you can have him. hang in there!!!

***Welcome said...

It's nice to be able to relate to people by reading their blog..the hair thing, i got to experience on my 21st birthday(4 1/2 years ago)..i just had to have the perfect cut (even though i was trying desparately to grow it long)..it was to my shoulders..i guess i just wanted style..So it was to last minute to go somewhere worth paying for but desparately talked myself into fantastic sams...She cut it to about 4 inches short all over, and didnt even bother to style it, mind you my back was to the mirror the whole time. I got in my car and cried...Ever since, i've been scarred..hating for people to cut it even when necessary..If you ever need someone to talk to(and not just about bad hair..you know the other things that break us down...) I am all about being here...even though you don't know me...

Jill Deiling said...

ohhh holly, im so sorry!! :( i would have punched that lady in the face after that happened! I totally know how that is. A few years ago my friends mom cut my hair. She cut my friends hair all the time and it always looked cute so I let her, I wanted it cut in this cute chin leghnth layered hair cut, and she cut is so short i swear it wasnt more than an inch long!! I cried for a looong time over that one. I grew my hair out for longer than a year and then i went to get my first trim at my moms hairstylist. I told her just cut no more than an inch off, and she cut like 4 inches off!! I started crying right there because i was so sick of my hair being short. so... i can relate with you!! i reccommend using pert plus or head and shoulders. they both strip color out of my hair really fast!

GINAJAM said...

Woah girl...I'm feeling so terrible for you right now. Dang...I didn't realize it was so expensive to get your hair done (or not done) these days. I haven't had a cut in almost a year since I'm trying to grow out an inverted bob. How awful!! You deserve your money back!! Hope this week turns around for you.

shelley said...

sweet pea - i have been through the SAME exact thing. I went in to my guy (this was years ago) who I had been seeing for 2years. told im I wanted to go a little darker with soem red highlights. I was so comfortable with him - I NEVER watched him do my hair. Sat i nthe chair dosing most times. THAT comfortable. when i got done being washed - the look on the stylists faces in the salon told me i wouldn't be happy. i had walked in in a navy blue business suit, pearls on, and heels.. okay - what does that tell you about the environment i worked in? corporate america? he had stripped color from my hair in chunks, dies the rest a BLUE-BLACK and gave me ELMO Red highlights. YES ELMO RED. I began to bawl. I said - do you know how OLD I am? Look I wear an effing SUIT everyday to work.. do you THINK this hair color will fly at work???? I demanded he fix it - the only way was to cover the red with MORE blue black and I ended up with a pixie cut. HORRID! I stopped payment on the check. never heard a word from him... SO - if you made it this far - I hope you can know - i'm crying right there with you - girlie.. and hats are SO in this year! and it's already winter where you are! smile - i bet no matter what - you look totally adorable! xoxoxox

Amy said...

i just clicked on your link from zoe's blog. i feel for you. as getting my hair cut/foiled serves as my therapy. i wish i had some tips for you. i'll ask my hair dresser who's also my friend tomorrow. hang in there. i am sure you probably think it looks worse than it really does. $225, the nerve of her to charge you that!!!

by the way, i haven't scrapped in a few years but would love to get the bug to do it again. your blog has inspired me.

hang in there!

RachelDenbow said...

Damn!

dani j. said...

:(. I HATE HATE HATE when some effs up my hair. seriously.

you could trying rinsing your hair with vinegar - it's really great for deep cleaning hair and for shine, but it definitly causes color to fade!

Charin said...

Ugh, I would be mad too! :(
I don't really have any other suggestions, but I hope it washes out soon for you.

Melanie Gonzaga said...

Oh boy, I know how you feel girl. One summer I thought I would go in and get some highlights put in my hair. I told the guy that it had to be presentable for work and he said no problem. Dude, I have black black asian hair, he gave me platinum blonde highlights!!! I thought, ummmm ok, I can deal with blonde, but then I looked at the back of head with a mirror. I looked like a freaking skunk!! And to top it all off, I was the last appointment before the salon closed. I went bezerk. I have very fine hair too, but I didn't care. I drove right to CVS and bought black hair dye and made my husband help me dye it back. Then I just made sure that I used those heavy duty leave in conditioners for a while. Hang in there girl!!

Melonie said...

Oh Holly so sorry to read about this. You are totally entitled to a little "ME" time every now and then and don't you ever feel bad about it. Sorry I really don't have any hair advice but I can offer a ((HUG))) for a better week.

Janay and Tim said...

Hi, I just stumbled onto your blog...sorry to hear about your hair color. NOt sure if this is too late but if you wash your hair with dishsoap it will lesson the color immensly.... :) Hope it works. Good luck!

Greta said...

oh my ...i had an expierence like that before but it was color it was CUTTING!!!

the bitch cut my hair off in like 8 layers and it was horrible looking...layers from my shoulders to my freaking earlobes....

i was so mortified i threatened to cut her with her own scissors and they called the cops on me....bwhahahahahaahah

i have bright red in my hair and it is dark to like yours and truly the thing that fades it the fasted is chlorine....find you a pool get a bucket fill it up..heat that carp up on the stove...and put it in your bath water and soak...i know it sound ridiculous but well worth the time and effort...

Dina said...

Hugs...are you liking it any better now that some time has passed? I have hairdresser angst, so I totally relate.